O’ahu Grief Rituals
tending our grief, together
We are meant to regularly and ritually tend to both our individual and our collective grief. Our humanity is found here. Our aliveness is found here. Our togetherness is found here.
Our monthly Communal Grief Rituals on the Windward side of O’ahu is a place to tend our everyday grief.
This gathering is for you if:
you feel drawn to tending grief and our shared humanness in the company of others
you are unsure how to meet with the grief that lives within you
you are longing for a container that is well-held, honest, and centers our shared humanity
you crave a space where you don’t feel pressured to show up in a certain way
you want to explore grief in a way that allows for your own conditioned misconceptions about it to alchemize
you want a ritual space to sink into, to feel, and to ritualize the big heart feels
you are needing a reminder that your sensitivity is not too much - it is just right for being a full-spectrum human
you want to experience the power of group ritual that can be both incredibly simple and nourishing
you desire more tools and practices to meet with the grief in your heart
you know that there is a thread of deep connection and remembrance that only can get met through being with others in community
Having an intimate relationship with grief doesn’t make someone depressed, it often makes them much more alive and connected to the pulse of love within and around them.
There is a way to tend both our grief and our embodied aliveness, joy, and pleasure. These are not at odds with one another.
Sometimes our grief is personal and sometimes it is collective - oftentimes it can be both at the same time which expands us beyond our individual selves and into the web of our collective bodies.
We need practices, rituals and gatherings that create a remembrance that we are not alone in our grief. As we tend our grief, may we remember, with every fiber of our being, that we are intricately connected through a larger communal web of hearts. May the nectar of this remembrance, continue to feed us and all of the communities that we are a part of.
Grief can be courted — slow, intentional, ritual practices allow it the feelings of safety that it sometimes craves and needs before it can fully show itself.
“Elisa’s communal grief rituals are an authentically beautiful experience that helped me in unexpected ways. She created a safe and supportive space for us to journey inward to explore and share from the heart. What made it so special was connecting with others. The act of offering and receiving unconditional love from the group was extremely healing. I’m so grateful to Elisa for her guidance and wisdom.” — Carolyn
Register for the next GRIEF RITUAL by making a sliding scale payment.
Venmo $30-$40: @Elisa-Spring
Please bring a journal and pen with you and something for our communal altar if you desire.
Your Guide —
ELISA SPRING
Elisa is a longtime Mentor + Intimacy Midwife, Grief Doula, Threshold Tender, Facilitator, and Dancer. Her work and passion is in the realm of re-imagining intimate relationships and reconnection to eros and aliveness in body, relationships, and work. She supports others in the deep exploration of their intimacy with grief and with pleasure, the expansion of their somatic expression, and the cultivation of new skills to build capacity for living into a life that is more cohesive and true. Elisa offers guidance, mentorship, and integration during times of transformation and the crossing of personal thresholds. She is a Mother of four magnificent children who are now 11, 13, 19, and 25 and lives on the island of O’ahu, home of the Kanaka Maoli, where she enjoys a large range of shenanigans.
