Grief Ritual for Lovers
A virtual grief ritual for the sensitive-hearted humans or those needing to be with these tender energies
Location
Online. Get cozy in your home space. Bring a journal, a pen, a stone, & a bowl of water that you may wish to place flowers or plants in.
TIMING
We meet on Saturday July 6th on zoom—
10am-12pm HST; 1pm-3pm PST; 4pm-6pm EST (please check your own timezones).
We don’t “get over grief”, we learn to open the door for it to come and go as needed, when our hearts need a good scrubbing.
Sometimes we don’t get to choose when that happens, but a regular, ritual heart-scrubbing is essential to caring for the entirety of both our body and our collective bodies.
We need bodies who are willing to learn how to grieve and we need grief tenders and sensitive hearted folk to stop feeling ashamed of their ability to have access to such tender expressions of love.
Grief, like many other energies that hold vitality and wisdom, was made “taboo”; tears were cast out as weakness; grief was patholigized and often feared. Grief was too mysterious for many.
Who has time for that? Our culture says: Move on. Keep going. Focus on what is good only. Show your best face— the one that makes everyone else not have to deal with their buried emotions, especially ones that connect us so deeply with our shared humanity.
Our shared humanity.
The spirit of grief can take us there and root us into the beauty of our collective soul.
Rituals can soften our internal resistance.
Other bodies who aren’t afraid of this wild energy that is grief become bridges and allies. We are here, and we are in this together.
Grief can feel like an old friend that we welcome in unexpectedly…”Oh, your’e here! Okay then, let me make a place for you at the table and relax into this being a different night than I envisioned”.
Grief Ritual for Lovers is a two hour virtual grief gathering for those that desire to be held in a group of other grief tenders.
This gathering is for you if:
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you feel drawn to tending grief and our shared humanness in the company of others
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you are unsure how to meet with the grief that lives within you
you are longing for a container that is well-held, honest, and centers our shared humanity
you crave a space where you don’t feel pressured to show up in a certain way
you want to explore grief in a way that allows for your own conditioned misconceptions about it to alchemize
you want a ritual space to sink into, to feel, and to ritualize the big heart feels
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you are needing a reminder that your sensitivity is not too much - it is just right for being a full-spectrum human
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you want to remember that group ritual can be both incredibly simple and powerful
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you desire more tools and practices to meet with the grief in your heart
you know that there is a thread of deep connection and remembrance that only can get met through ritual
Having an intimate relationship with grief doesn’t make someone depressed, it often makes them much more alive and connected to the pulse of love within and around them.
There is a way to tend both our grief and our embodied aliveness, joy, and pleasure. These are not at odds with one another.
Sometimes our grief is personal and sometimes it is collective - oftentimes it can be both at the same time which expands us beyond our individual selves and into the web of our collective bodies.
We need practices, rituals and gatherings that create a remembrance that we are not alone in our grief. As we tend our grief, may we remember, with every fiber of our being, that we are intricately connected through a larger communal web of hearts. May the nectar of this remembrance, continue to feed us all.
Grief can be courted like a lover — slow, intentional, titrated, ritual practices allow it the feelings of safety that it sometimes craves and needs before it can fully show itself.
REGISTER for our
GRIEF RITUAL FOR LOVERS
Your Guide —
ELISA SPRING
I utilize I wide variety of various modalities and roots of support that include but are not limited to: deeply-rooted container building, shamanic journeying, group ritual practices, Wheel Of Consent relational intimacy work, energetic attunement, emotional alchemy, somatic/body based practices to increase sensation and connection to the body and womb, therapeutic storytelling, and personal myth-making.
I have steeped in many paths of embodied study that have included Holistic Health Coaching, Specialized Movement Practices, Lineages of Dance, Trauma-Informed Healing, Wheel Of Consent Professional Trainings, Relational Intimacy Coaching & Practices, Interpersonal Communication Studies, Sex Education/Yoga of Sex, Birth & Blood Mysteries, Ancestral Healing, Mythological Studies, Dreamwork, and continual practice in the long lineage of frame drummers.
